Relationship invites you to grow as a person. At this moment, you
may be early in your relationship, and wanting to talk with a counselor to
understand how to make your relationship better with healthier
communication. Perhaps, your relationship is on rocky ground,
struggling. Why do some relationships seem to move along
smoothly, and others move in and out of continual stressors? Have
you ever wondered what is behind the repetitive, non-productive conflict?
Maybe right now you are experiencing hardship, broken trust, or
loss. There are so many things that effect life today...
jobs, parenting, adoption, infertility, loss, illness, family
members, elder parents, re-marriage, addictions, individual interests,
friends, sexuality, money management, and ..... those things that are on
your specific list.
Have you ever seen a piece of sterling silver, shiny and new in a store,
or maybe even given as a wedding gift? To stay shiny, it must
be taken care of on a regular basis. It needs to be polished,
treasured, and enjoyed to be appreciated. If it is not, it
tarnishes, gets pushed to the back of a shelf or even forgotten, and may
end up in a garage sale, dropped and dented. Similarly, a
relationship must be taken care of... nurtured, polished and appreciated.
We know certain behaviors that contribute to a healthy couple
ship...
Honesty, Open
Communication, Compromise, Willingness, Balance, Care, Common
Values, Understanding each other dreams and working towards that fulfillment. Most importantly, both have to value the relationship.
What undermines a relationship? What are your concerns about
your relationship? Life is a Journey. We go through many passages.
A relationship begins with blending the story that each individual
brings to your couple ship. The family you grew up in, how you
were affected, as well as any previous relationships impact your story
today. Sometimes, a couple gets caught up in a gridlock with
the what seems to be the same problem, again and again. Look at the
Iceberg. You've probably heard the phrase... "tip of the iceberg".
Sometimes, the repetitive argument is about the surface. Couple
therapy can help guide you to discover what's underneath the water,
driving the brokenness. ... That's the biggest part of the iceberg,
which if not addressed will "sink your ship"
A s a Licensed Professional Counselor and
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I take a systems approach
to diagnosis and treatment.
Let's strive to build a world centered in peace and harmony.
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual
differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is
open,and rules are flexible-- the kind of atmosphere that is found in a
nurturing family.
-- Virginia Satir:
