We Came to Believe workshop is designed for couples who would like to improve the quality of their relationship. The program offers a variety of experiences that seek to restore and enhance intimacy, develop communication skills, and help build bridges for the future. Each couple will leave the experience with a treasure chest of tools to use in their daily life. They will explore boundaries, healthy sexuality and conflict resolution. They will build a support system to help them continue their growth. They will understand and work the Steps together. The program is not exclusive to any one behavioral issue, addiction, or lifestyle. The 12 Steps of Recovery are originally from Alcoholics Anonymous, and adapted to couples. A premise is learned that an issue for one member of the coupleship is an issue.
We Came to Believe has been presented in various formats: two weekend format, monthly, and weekly format. Mary Jane Lane LPC LMFT CMAT-S has facilitated the program nationally since 1990. The original workshop is based on workbook" Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance and Reality by Dr. Patrick Carnes and Mark and Deb Laaser.
To attend the workshop, both members of the partnership need to participate, and be willing to work on their relationship. The goal is to renew and build communication, along with other couples seeking recovery. Members do not need to be currently working the 12 Steps or be in a Recovery program. The only requirement for participation is the desire to remain committed to each other and to develop new intimacy. Participants are asked to commit to the entire program, thru the 12th Step.
Upcoming Workshop: Des Moines, Iowa Two Weekend format
Discovery Retreat November 2, 3, 4, 2018
Partners assess the impact of addictive illness on their relationship, explore their spirituality together, and discover strengths that will sustain their recovery. Steps 1 , Step 2, Step 3, Step 4 and Step 5.
After the first weekend, partners complete a series of exercises to enhance their relationship and deepen intimacy. Partners are also encouraged to connect with a Recovering Couples Anonymous group.
Renewal Retreat January 18, 19, 20, 2019
Building on the first two phases, the Renewal Weekend taps into ongoing sources of renewal in the relationship for healing and growth. The focus is on Steps 6, Step 7, Step 8, Step 9, Step 10, Step 11, and Step 12. Couples build tools that make a difference in living a life of couple recovery.
To register, Contact Mary Jane Lane LPC LMFT CMAT-S